This will test your knowledge of what it means to be emotionally, mentally and spiritually healthy.
Worship: See A Victory / What A Beautiful Name by Jonathan Traylor
Scriptures:
Galatians 5: 22 - 26
Matthew 7:1-3
Ephesians 2:8-9
John 3:16
Galatians 1:10
2 Corinthians 10:3-5
Mark 8:14-21
Matthew 18:21-22
Luke 12:6-7
Introduction
Through this 4.5 year series we have identified traits that we defined as the goal for wholeness
Wholeness is about being _______ healthy
spiritually
emotionally
mentally
Free from oppression of
Our past
Bad thinking
Strongholds
The enemy
We’re talking about
dealing with life’s current stresses
being healed from experiences/wounds of the past
We’re promised eternal life
We’re also supposed to have: joy, peace, patience, and self control here on earth
Traits of Wholeness
Honesty
Kindness
Behavior not influenced by external approval / validation
Living by values and principles
Setting Boundaries
Taking ownership of your responsibilities
Living with purpose and passion
Hope
Confidence
Not losing control of your emotions
Free from addictions
Addressing Conflict with truth and love
Has the capacity to resolve conflict maturely
you “fight fair“
Not critical or Judgemental
Not jealous of others
Forgive those who have wronged you in the past
Know that you’re worthy of receiving love
Not afraid to fail
Able to manage irrational fear, worry, and anxiety
Able to maintain a non-anxious presence in the midst of anxiety and stress
Selfless encounters with others
Not manipulating others trying to control their actions
You care about how others feel
And can feel it
Patient
Don’t give into peer/social pressure
Can communicate without antagonizing others
You can complain respectfully
Recognize, manage, and take responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings
Slow to anger
Not easily triggered
Ability to maturely express your wants, needs and desires
Can listen without reacting
Can respect others without having to change them
Able to take responsibility for your own destiny in life
Able to negotiate solutions and take other people's perspectives into consideration
Give people room to make mistakes and not be perfect
Love God
Love your neighbor
Pray and spend time with God
You are led by the Spirit
Have faith in your salvation through Jesus
Seeking Wholeness Quiz
Here is a quiz that will measure what you learned in the Seeking Wholeness series.
Fruits of the Spirit
Judging Others
Emotional Healing
Salvation
Emotionally Broken
Strongholds
Mindsets
Beneath You
Response to Hurt
Forgiveness
Steps Toward Healing
Self-Consciousness
Pride
The Story You Tell Yourself
Fruits of the Spirit
Which of these are not fruits of the spirit listed by Paul
Joy
Material Wealth
Peace
Self control
Galatians 5: 22 - 23
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
Love
Joy
Peace
Patience
Kindness
Goodness
Faithfulness
Gentleness
Self-control
These qualities are considered to be the result of the Holy Spirit's presence in a believer's life.
B. Wealth
The Bible does address wealth in various ways:
It warns against the dangers of the love of money (1 Timothy 6:10).
It encourages generosity and giving (2 Corinthians 9:7).
Store up treasures in heaven (Matthew 6:19-21).
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Introducing Wholeness
Judging Others
What’s a reason people judge others harshly?
They don’t read the Bible
They don’t have enough faith
They judge themselves harshly
They have fear of the future
All of the above
C. They judge themselves harshly
That's a common observation, and there's a lot of psychological support for the idea that people who are highly judgmental of others often hold themselves to equally, if not more, stringent standards. Here's a breakdown of why this might be:
Projection:
Sometimes, people project their own insecurities or unwanted traits onto others. By criticizing those traits in others, they subconsciously distance themselves from those same qualities within themselves.
It can be a defense mechanism. If you are extremely worried about a flaw in yourself, seeing it in others and focusing on it, can be a way to avoid dealing with your own issue.
Internalized Criticism:
People who are overly critical of themselves often have a strong "inner critic" that constantly berates them. This internal voice can then be projected outward, leading to harsh judgments of others.
They have set very high, and often unrealistic, standards for themselves, and therefore expect the same from everyone else.
Maintaining a Sense of Control:
Judging others can create a temporary illusion of control. By focusing on the perceived flaws of others, people might feel a sense of superiority or that they are "better" than those they are judging. This can be a way to cope with feelings of insecurity or powerlessness.
Mirroring:
People tend to mirror the behavior that they have been shown. If a person has been raised by very judgemental people, they are more likely to also be judgemental.
Cognitive Dissonance:
If someone has beliefs about how people should act, and then they themselves act in a way that violates those beliefs, they may judge others who act that way very harshly, as a way to reduce the discomfort of cognitive dissonance.
It's important to remember that this isn't always the case. Some people may be genuinely critical without necessarily being self-critical. However, the correlation between judging others and judging oneself is a common and well-documented psychological phenomenon.
Matthew 7:1-3
1“Do not judge so that you will not be judged. 2“For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. 3“Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Introducing Wholeness
Emotional Healing
Emotional wounds can be caused by:
Trauma
Depression
A broken heart
Childhood experiences
All of the above
E. All of the above
Emotional wounds can stem from a variety of deeply painful experiences. Here's a more detailed look at the causes mentioned, and some additional factors:
Trauma:
This can include experiences like physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, witnessing violence, or being involved in natural disasters. Trauma can shatter a person's sense of safety and security.
Depression:
This mental health condition can create a constant state of emotional pain, leading to feelings of hopelessness, worthlessness, and deep sadness.
A Broken Heart:
The end of a significant relationship, whether romantic or otherwise, can cause intense emotional pain and a sense of loss. Betrayal within relationships can also cause deep emotional wounds.
Childhood experiences:
Neglect, abandonment, and inconsistent caregiving can leave lasting emotional scars.
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Wounds From the Past
Salvation
You can tell someone isn’t saved if they are struggling with
Alcoholism
Gossip
Lying
Binging on Netflix
None of the above are indicators of a lack of salvation
E. None of the above are indicators of a lack of salvation
Ephesians 2:8-9
"For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast." (NIV)
Here's why this verse is so significant:
"By grace you have been saved":
It emphasizes that salvation is a gift from God, not something we earn.
"through faith":
It highlights that we receive this gift by believing in Jesus Christ.
"it is the gift of God":
This reinforces that salvation is entirely God's initiative.
"not by works, so that no one can boast":
This clarifies that our actions cannot earn us salvation, preventing any sense of self-righteousness.
Additionally, John 3:16 is also a very well known verse that describes God's gift of salvation.
John 3:16:
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." (NIV)
Emotionally Broken
What are some signs that we need to do some emotional healing work?
Overly worried about the opinions of others
Negative assumptions
Irrational Fear
Uncontrollable Anger
All of the above
E All of the above
It's important to recognize that these traits often intertwine and feed into one another. They're frequently rooted in past experiences and present-day insecurities. Here's a closer look:
A. Overly Worried About the Opinions of Others:
Galatians 1:10
10 For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Root Causes:
Low self-esteem: A deep-seated belief that one is not good enough.
Fear of rejection: A strong desire to avoid social disapproval.
Past experiences: Childhood criticism, bullying, or social exclusion can create lasting sensitivity to others' judgments.
Codependency: placing other peoples opinions above ones own.
Impact:
Constant anxiety and stress.
Difficulty making independent decisions.
People-pleasing behaviors that lead to resentment.
Loss of authentic self.
B. Negative Assumptions:
Root Causes:
Pessimistic worldview: A tendency to expect the worst.
Past trauma: Experiences that have reinforced a sense of danger or helplessness.
Cognitive distortions: Patterns of negative thinking that distort reality.
Low self efficacy: A belief that you are unable to handle situations.
Impact:
Self-fulfilling prophecies: Negative expectations can lead to negative outcomes.
Strained relationships: Assuming the worst of others can create conflict.
Missed opportunities: Fear of failure can prevent taking risks.
Increased anxiety and depression.
C. Irrational Fear:
Root Causes:
Trauma: Past experiences that have created associations between certain stimuli and danger.
Anxiety disorders: Conditions that involve excessive and persistent fear.
Learned behaviors: Fears can be learned from observing others.
Chemical imbalances within the brain.
Impact:
Avoidance behaviors: Limiting one's life to avoid perceived threats.
Panic attacks: Sudden episodes of intense fear.
Phobias: Intense and irrational fears of specific objects or situations.
Decreased quality of life.
D. Uncontrollable Anger:
Root Causes:
Suppressed emotions: Unprocessed pain, frustration, or resentment.
Trauma: Experiences that have created a sense of powerlessness or injustice.
Difficulty regulating emotions: Lack of skills to manage intense feelings.
Underlying mental health conditions.
Impact:
Damaged relationships: Anger outbursts can alienate loved ones.
Physical health problems: Chronic anger can contribute to heart disease and other conditions.
Legal and professional consequences: Aggressive behavior can lead to serious repercussions.
Feelings of shame and guilt.
The Interconnectedness:
These traits often form a vicious cycle. For example:
Worrying about others' opinions can lead to negative assumptions about their judgments.
Negative assumptions can fuel irrational fears.
Irrational fears can lead to frustration and anger.
Uncontrollable anger can cause others to have negative opinions.
The Path to Healing:
Breaking this cycle requires:
Self-awareness: Recognizing these patterns.
Self-compassion: Treating oneself with kindness and understanding.
Therapy: Seeking professional help to address underlying issues.
Developing coping skills: Learning healthy ways to manage emotions.
Building self esteem.
By addressing these traits, individuals can create healthier emotional lives and build stronger relationships.
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Wounds From the Past
Strongholds
What is an example of a Biblical stronghold
Punching your neighbor
Falling asleep while praying
Believing the Bible is outdated
Telling a “white lie”
None of the above
C. Believing the Bible is outdated
2 Corinthians 10:3-5
3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, 4for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. 5We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ,
Fortress: a castle or stronghold - figuratively argument
We fight against arguments. The fortress/stronghold is a fortified argument that has been in our heads so long that it is strong.
It’s not the sin, but it’s the argument you use to justify the sin
When Satan won the argument with Adam and Eve, he was able to manipulate their behavior.
We need to be concerned about the war within.
What arguments are you telling yourself?
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Mindsets That Will Change Your Life
Mindsets
Which mindset believes that qualities like intelligence, talent and abilities can be developed through practice and effort.
Growth mindset
Abundance Mindset
Thankful Mindset
Fixed Mindset
None of the Above
A. Growth mindset
Growth mindset believes that qualities like intelligence, talent and abilities can be developed through practice and effort.
Fixed mindset believes that basic qualities like intelligence or talents are fixed traits.
Some people have it and some don’t
Growth Mindset
Intelligence/competence can be developed
Embrace challenges as opportunities to learn
Self image is not tied to your external success
Not afraid to fail
Effort is the path to intelligence, growth and mastery
Celebrates their friends' success
Criticism is a source of information
When new situations occur you can approach it with
Faith, hope, curiosity, excitement
Fear, immobility, doubt
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Mindsets That Will Change Your Life
Jesus’ Miracles of Bread
Mark 8:14-21
14And they had forgotten to take bread, and did not have more than one loaf in the boat with them. 15And He was giving orders to them, saying, “Watch out! Beware of the leaven of the Pharisees and the leaven of Herod.” 16They began to discuss with one another the fact that they had no bread. 17And Jesus, aware of this, said to them, “Why do you discuss the fact that you have no bread? Do you not yet see or understand? Do you have a hardened heart? 18“HAVING EYES, DO YOU NOT SEE? AND HAVING EARS, DO YOU NOT HEAR? And do you not remember, 19when I broke the five loaves for the five thousand, how many baskets full of broken pieces you picked up?” They said to Him, “Twelve.” 20“When I broke the seven for the four thousand, how many large baskets full of broken pieces did you pick up?” And they said to Him, “Seven.” 21And He was saying to them, “Do you not yet understand?”
What didn’t they understand?
7 loaves they fed 4000 - 7 baskets left over
5 loaves and fed 5000 - 12 baskets left over
Jesus reminded the disciples that when they started with less food they fed more people and had more leftovers.
Why do you focus on what you don’t have?
The amount you have is not important
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : How to Renew Your Mind
Beneath You
What does the phrase: “There should be some things that are beneath you” mean?
As you grow and mature spiritually and emotionally:
You may need to change the company you keep
There are some things that bothered you that you don’t need to respond to
You are no longer motivated by things that used to motivate you
The “old you” liked things that no longer stimulate you
All of the above
E. All of the above
The phrase "There should be some things that are beneath you," when considered in the context of spiritual and emotional growth, doesn't suggest arrogance or looking down on others.
Instead, it points to:
Discernment and Boundaries:
It signifies the importance of knowing your worth and setting boundaries. It means recognizing that certain behaviors, situations, or interactions are not aligned with your values or your path to growth.
It's about having the wisdom to distinguish between what is worthy of your energy and attention, and what is not.
Protecting Your Peace:
It implies safeguarding your emotional and spiritual well-being. This can involve avoiding toxic relationships, negative environments, or engaging in behaviors that compromise your integrity.
It's about choosing to rise above pettiness, drama, and negativity.
Focusing on Higher Values:
Focus on Kingdom goals
It encourages prioritizing actions and pursuits that contribute to your spiritual and emotional development. This could mean focusing on acts of kindness, self-reflection, or pursuing meaningful goals.
It's about not getting bogged down in trivial or harmful activities.
Maintaining Integrity:
It is about avoiding actions that violate your personal code of ethics.
It means refusing to participate in gossip, slander, or other behaviors that diminish your character.
In essence, it's about:
Knowing your value.
Protecting your energy.
Staying true to your path.
It's not about being superior to others, but about being true to yourself and your journey of growth. It's about choosing to invest your time and energy in things that uplift you and contribute to your well-being.
Colossians 3:1-3
1 Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.
2 Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth.
3 For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God.
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Change Your Focus, Change Your Future
Response to Hurt
What are some responses to being hurt?
Martyrdom
Become Angry and Bitter
Seek Revenge
Inability to Trust
All of the above
E. All of the above
These reactions stem from pain and a desire to protect oneself, but they can ultimately be self-destructive. Here's a breakdown:
Martyrdom:
This involves playing the victim, exaggerating one's suffering, and seeking validation through pain.
It can be a way to manipulate others or avoid taking responsibility for one's own healing.
Become Angry and Bitter:
This response involves channeling hurt into anger and resentment.
It can lead to isolation, damaged relationships, and a negative outlook on life.
Seek Revenge:
This involves a desire to inflict pain on those who caused the hurt.
While it may provide temporary satisfaction, it often perpetuates a cycle of violence and leaves lasting emotional scars.
Inability to Trust:
Emotional hurt can lead to a deep-seated fear of vulnerability.
This can manifest as an inability to trust others, even those who are well-intentioned.
It's important to recognize that these responses, while understandable, are not effective coping mechanisms. They can hinder emotional healing and create further problems.
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Dealing With the Hurt
Forgiveness
Which of these statements about forgiveness is Biblically true?
Forgiveness needs to be earned
Forgiveness requires restoring the relationship to its prior state
You can forgive, but demand an apology
There is no limit to how many times we are commanded to forgive
None of the above
D. There is no limit to how many times we are commanded to forgive
Matthew 18:21-22
21 Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”
22 Jesus *said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Healing From the Hurt
Steps Toward Healing
Which of these actions will help you heal emotionally?
Keep the promises you make to yourself
Acknowledge your feelings
Forgive others
Forgive yourself
All of the above
E. All of the above
Keep the promises you make to yourself: This builds self-trust and self-respect. When you consistently follow through on your commitments to yourself, you reinforce the belief that you are worthy and capable, which is essential for emotional resilience.
Acknowledge your feelings: Suppressing emotions can lead to them festering and intensifying. Recognizing and validating your feelings, even the uncomfortable ones, allows you to process them and move forward.
Forgive others: Holding onto resentment and anger can be emotionally draining and prevent you from healing. Forgiveness, while not condoning harmful actions, frees you from the burden of those negative emotions.
Forgive yourself: Self-compassion is vital for emotional healing. Everyone makes mistakes, and holding onto self-blame and guilt can hinder your progress. Forgiving yourself allows you to learn from your experiences and move forward with greater self-acceptance.
These actions are interconnected and work together to create a foundation for emotional well-being.
Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Healing From the Hurt
Self-Consciousness
What are some symptoms of unhealthy self-conscious emotions?
responding to embarrassment with anger and hostility
avoiding social experiences
blame others for your mistakes
feeling responsible for wrongs made against yourself
All of the above
E. All of the above
These reactions often stem from deep-seated insecurities and a fear of judgment.
Responding to embarrassment with anger and hostility:
This is a defensive mechanism. Instead of acknowledging vulnerability, the person lashes out, attempting to deflect attention from their perceived weakness.
This response often worsens social situations and creates further conflict.
Avoiding social experiences:
This is a common reaction to self-consciousness, as social situations can trigger feelings of anxiety and inadequacy.
While avoidance may provide temporary relief, it can lead to isolation and limit personal growth.
Blaming others for your mistakes:
This is another defensive mechanism that allows the person to avoid taking responsibility for their actions.
By projecting blame, they attempt to protect their self-image, but this can damage relationships and hinder self-improvement.
Feeling responsible for wrongs made against yourself:
This is a very damaging response. Self-consciousness can warp a person's perception of events, and cause them to internalize blame for situations where they are in fact the victim.
This can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, and low self-worth.
These responses often create a negative cycle, reinforcing feelings of self-consciousness and making it harder to build healthy relationships.
From Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Fear and Shame
Pride
In the class we said that pride is the opposite of shame?
True
False
We didn’t talk about shame
A. True
Pride and shame use the same standard of measure
Pride and shame have the same standard.
Pride says I see myself as achieving that standard.
Shame says I didn't achieve that standard
Pride
I did/am it
Or I’m deserving of it
shame
I didn’t do it
I’m not worthy of it
Your standard for success may be:
Being married
Having my kids at this school
Wearing expensive clothes
Not sinning
Being a millionaire
Marrying into the right family
Exercising
Not eating meat
Marrying a doctor
From Lesson: Unchained Disciples : Fear and Shame
The Story You Tell Yourself
Luke 12:6-7
6 “Are not five sparrows sold for two cents? Yet not one of them is forgotten before God.
7 “Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear; you are more valuable than many sparrows.
This scripture can be recited as a solution for which story we tell ourselves (inner critic)?
The Dependence story
The Unworthy story
The Disconnected story
The Failure Story
None of the above
B. The Unworthy story
The Unworthy story
Story
I’m flawed
I’m unlovable
I am damaged
I am less than
Cause
High standards placed on you
constantly criticized or compared to others
Lesson: The Story You Tell Yourself
Unchained Disciples : The Story You Tell Yourself
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