Introducing Wholeness
Scriptures:
- 2 Corinthians 5:17
- Romans 12:3-5
- Romans 14:17
- Galatians 5: 22 - 26
- Galatians 5:18
- Romans 12:2
Outline:
- Introduction
- Defining Wholeness
- My Wholeness Journey
- The Process
- Fruits of Wholeness
- Biblical Wholeness
- God is Renewing You (Devotional)
Introduction
2 Corinthians 5:17
17 Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.
What does wholeness mean to you?
We live in a broken world and every day we deal with broken people. Many of us were raised by dysfunctional families. From childhood we have encountered painful experiences, failed relationships, and broken promises. We’ve been lied to and lied on, been betrayed by people we trusted, seen loved ones pass away, and live with the regret of things we’ve done or said.
With every hurtful experience we can become a little bit more wounded.
We’ve wrestled with the thought ... Why
The goal of this series is to let God heal the wounds that we’ve received from all of these experiences. Some may say that they’re already whole. The goal of this series is that you will become the highest and healthiest version of you possible. The version of you that you’ve always wished you could be. To be whole is to be the person that God envisioned you to be before the earth was created.
Wholeness also means that you accept yourself as you are. There are no parts of your present or past life that you are ashamed of.
Defining Wholeness
Wholeness is when your life today lines up with what heaven and God foreknew for you in such a way that he can do in your life everything that has been waiting on you to get into alignment. God's promises were made to the whole version of you.
God doesn’t just want you to get to heaven he wants you to have wholeness here on earth.
Results of Wholeness
- Good relationships (male and female)
- Be who God wanted us to be
- Ability to give and receive real love
- Fully accept and receive the love of God
Three things happen when wholeness enters our life
- You get a new lease on life
- Breaks generational curses and release generational blessings
- Brings restoration
Wholeness brings restoration and acceleration. That is not just giving you back things you knew were lost. Some of the things you get will be things that you didn't even know were lost.
--Toure Roberts
My Wholeness Journey
Was teaching at UBF
- Relationships
- Song of Solomon
In parallel, I was on a path of self development
Studied
- Relationships
- Attraction and dating
- Broken people teaching how to attract broken people
- Become whole and you will attract whole people
- Psychology
- Psychotherapy
- Existentialism
- We’re aware of our mortality
- We’re prone to illness and aging
- We can be damaged by lies, betrayal
- Inner Healing / sozo
- Charismatic Christians
- Demonology
- 12 Step program
Self Evaluation
Attracted to the wrong people
- Attracting the wrong people
Relationship cycle
- Dating women who were hard to please
- Emotionally unstable women
- Walk on eggshells
- Narcissists
- Controlling
- Create drama for attention
- Victims
All women are …
...but I’m normal
100% of time there are 2 broken people
If you are broken you are going to be drawn to another broken person...codependency. Codependency is meeting each other’s mutual neediness.
Started to Heal
Began my journey to wholeness
Discovered issues
- Overly concerned about the opinions of others
- Avoid conflict
- Fixer
- Took responsibility for their emotions
Christian Parallels
At the same time I saw how what I was learning parallel with some of the biblical principals I was teaching.
- Removing the cares of the world
- Renewing your mind
The Process
Romans 12:3-5
- Have a sober clear view of yourself
- We are in this together
Steps
- Self awareness
- Self acceptance
- Healing
Self Awareness
The first step is realizing all of the characteristics of yourself
- Beliefs
- Defense mechanisms
- Coping strategies
- Triggers
What do you believe?
- Why?
What makes you angry?
- Why?
What makes you sin?
- Why?
As we discuss the topic of Wholeness, you will see things that some things resonate with your life.
- You will identify with issues that you knew you had
- You will identify with issues that you didn’t know were issues
As you hear others speak you will realize that we all have similar issues
Not Judging
This phase is not to judge yourself, but instead just to understand yourself fully.
Authenticity
Authentic / transparent
Only talk about what you’re comfortable talking about
God Will Help
God will begin to bring things to your mind
- Maybe things that you forgot about
- Things that hurt you in the past
- Things that changed the way you view the world
Exercises
Things to do and think about between classes
Book
Wholeness - Toure Roberts
Self Acceptance
The second goal is to accept yourself as you are
There may be some aspects of your past that you are ashamed of.
The goal is that we will be comfortable with ourselves and no longer have anything to hide.
You own up to your faults and weaknesses and make peace with them.
- Or begin the work to change
Example:
- This is a coping mechanism to make yourself feel better because you are often sad.
- It is good to have a coping mechanism and try to make yourself feel good but the path you have chosen is harmful for your body.
Realize that God loves you just as you are
Healing
Talking about it is healing
We will go into multiple practical methods of healing
The ultimate goal is that we will fully accept and experience the love of God
Fruits of Wholeness
Wholeness means to be unbroken… To be complete, to be not lacking anything, to be the healthiest version of yourself.
Fruits of Wholeness
Why do you think people lack these traits?
- Self aware
- Confidence
- Honest
- Doesn’t use white lies to avoid reactions
- “Yes I’ll be at your birthday party”
- Not hiding the truth
- Don’t use language to get what you want (manipulate)
- Live by Values and principles (moral and emotional)
- Not hypocritical
- Not chameleons
- Values not defined by others
- Express your feelings clearly and directly
- Set healthy Boundaries
- Knows how to say no
- Live with Purpose and Passion
- High Self-esteem
- Knowing that you are a child of God
- Not seeking approval from others
- Optimistic
- Not worried or anxious
- You have supernatural peace regardless of your circumstances
- Authentic
- Morally consistent
- Would not be ashamed if your conversation became public
- Vulnerable
- Accept That God loves you as You are
- Have healthy relationships with both genders
- Don’t have addictions
- Don’t lose control
- Anger
- Not afraid of conflict
Biblical Wholeness
We want to go beyond clinical wholeness to reaching biblical wholeness
It’s hard to maintain biblical wholeness without clinical wholeness
- If God cures your alcoholism but not your depression and feeling worthlessness then you may relapse
Surrender is the fastest path to biblical wholeness
Biblical wholeness involves
- Entering into the Kingdom of God
- Being Led by the Spirit
- Renewing Your Mind
Entering the Kingdom of God
- It’s something we experience here
- “The Kingdom of God is upon us”
It’s only attainable once we have the Holy Spirit
Romans 14:17
for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.
Fruits
- Righteousness
- Peace
- Joy
Fruits of the Spirit
Galatians 5: 22 - 26
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
24 Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
25 If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit.
26 Let us not become boastful, challenging one another, envying one another.
- Love
- Joy
- Peace
- Patience
- Kindness
- Goodness
- Faithfulness
- Gentleness
- Self-control
Other biblical fruits of wholeness
- Asks for forgiveness when wrong
- Can forgive others
- Give to others with no expectations in return
- You don’t harbor any unforgiveness towards anyone
Being Led By the Spirit
Galatians 5:18
Being led by the Spirit is the ultimate righteousness.
Being led by the Spirit is hearing the Spirit and obeying
Renewing Your Mind
Romans 12:2
God said I knew you before I brought you into this world.
- God formed us for a purpose before sending us to this world.
- If we conform to this world then we can’t do what we were sent to do.
so that you may prove what the will of God is,
- prove
- This means that you know the will of God and you approve.
- “That’s the will of God and I like it “.
It’s not just to know the will of God. It is to know it and approve of it.
God wants our mind to be changed in such a way that we agree with Him.
- We want what He wants
- We agree with His commands
- Not just blindly obeying, but of like mind
Repent
Repent means to change your mind
- Renewed mind means your mind has completed being changed
Having a Renewed Mind means:
- You hate sin as much as God does
- You love people as much as God does
God is Renewing You (Devotional)
I am making you new in the attitude of your mind. Living close to Me is all about newness and change. I am transforming you by the entire renewal of your mind. This is a massive undertaking; you will be under construction until the day you die. However, unlike the inanimate materials that builders use to construct houses, you are living, breathing "material." I have given you the amazing ability to think things out and make important choices. I want you to use this godlike ability to cooperate with Me as I transform you. This involves putting off your old self - your old way of thinking and doing things - and putting on the new self.
To make good, godly choices, you need to know Me as I truly am. Search for Me in My word; ask My Spirit to illuminate it - shining His Light so that scripture comes alive to you. The more you choose to live according to My will, the more you'll become like Me, and the more you can enjoy walking in the Light of My Presence.
"Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - His good, pleasing and perfect will." (Romans 12:2)
"Blessed are those who have learned to acclaim you, who walk in the light of your
presence, O Lord." (Psalm 89:15)
Exercise
Ask yourself two “why”s when you notice
- Anger
- Action
- Belief
References
Wholeness
--Toure Roberts
How to Know the Will of God
--John Piper
Extra
Spirit of the Living God (Lyrics)
Spirit of the living God
We want to know You more and more
We're hanging on every word
'Cause when You speak, and when You move
When You do what only You can do
It changes us
It changes what we see and what we seek
When You come in the room
When You do what only You can do
It changes us
It changes what we see and what we seek
You're changing everything
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