Wednesday, March 26, 2025

Seeking Wholeness Quiz 2

 

Test your mental, emotional, and spiritual health.  Based on the Seeking Wholeness Series.


Introduction

Through this 5 year series we have identified traits that we defined as the goal for wholeness.

This quiz is intended to test your comprehension after viewing the entire series.  It is not intended to fully summarize the lessons or to teach on the solutions to all of the emotional issues discussed.

Wholeness is about being _______ healthy

  • spiritually
  • emotionally
  • mentally

Free from oppression of

  • Our past
  • Bad thinking
  • Strongholds
  • The enemy

We’re talking about
  • dealing with life’s current stresses
  • being healed from experiences/wounds of the past

We’re promised eternal life

  • We’re also supposed to have: joy, peace, patience, and self control here on earth

Over the past 5 years, we’ve come up with a list of traits that define “Wholeness”.  These are the traits that we’re striving for to be emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy.

Traits of Wholeness

  • Honesty
  • Kindness
  • Behavior not influenced by external approval / validation
  • Living by values and principles
  • Setting Boundaries
  • Taking ownership of your responsibilities
  • Living with purpose and passion
  • Hope
  • Confidence
  • Not losing control of your emotions
  • Free from addictions
  • Addressing Conflict with truth and love
  • Has the capacity to resolve conflict maturely
  • you “fight fair“
  • Not critical or Judgemental
  • Not jealous of others
  • Forgive those who have wronged you in the past
  • Know that you’re worthy of receiving love
  • Not afraid to fail
  • Able to manage irrational fear, worry, and anxiety
  • Able to maintain a non-anxious presence in the midst of anxiety and stress
  • Selfless encounters with others
  • Not manipulating others trying to control their actions
  • You care about how others feel
  • And can feel it
  • Patient
  • Don’t give into peer/social pressure
  • Can communicate without antagonizing others
  • You can complain respectfully
  • Recognize, manage, and take responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings
  • Slow to anger
  • Not easily triggered
  • Ability to maturely express your wants, needs and desires
  • Can listen without reacting
  • Can respect others without having to change them
  • Able to take responsibility for your own destiny in life
  • Able to negotiate solutions and take other people's perspectives into consideration
  • Give people room to make mistakes and not be perfect
  • Love God
  • Love your neighbor
  • Pray and spend time with God
  • You are led by the Spirit
  • Have faith in your salvation through Jesus

Seeking Wholeness Quiz

Here is a quiz that will measure what you learned in the Seeking Wholeness series.

  1. The Abandonment Story
  2. The Christian mindset
  3. Renewing Your Mind
  4. Coping strategies
  5. Controlling Your Emotions
  6. Emotional Triggers
  7. Anxiety
  8. Addictions
  9. Take Every Thought Captive
  10. Happiness and Peace
  11. People Pleasing
  12. Boundaries
  13. Self Care
  14. Sleep
  15. Seven types of rest
  16. Spiritual Rest
  17. Negative Self Talk
  18. Positive Self Talk
  19. Heart
  20. Anger

Scriptures:

  • Deuteronomy 31:6
  • Romans 8:31-34
  • Colossians 3:2
  • Isaiah 26:3-4
  • Philippians 4:8
  • Galatians 1:10
  • Proverbs 12:20
  • Exodus 20:17
  • Galatians 5:19-22
  • Proverbs 23:7
  • Ephesians 4:25-27

1 The Abandonment Story

Which questions will help you if you have the Abandonment Story?

  1. Do you have unrealistic expectations of what a relationship should be?
  2. In what ways could you practice being vulnerable so that you can open yourself up to experiencing more joy in a relationship?
  3. How can you focus on developing more trust in a relationship?
  4. Are you pursuing partners who are emotionally unavailable?
  5. All of the above

5. All of the above

Abandonment Story

  • People don’t really care about me
  • No matter how good things seem it will never last
  • I am destined to end up alone
  • I worry about people I care about leaving or dying
  • Everybody leaves
  • I knew they weren’t going to stay anyway.  
    • It was just a matter of time

  • "Do you have unrealistic expectations of what a relationship should be?"
  • Fear of abandonment can lead to clinging behavior and an intense need for constant reassurance. This can translate into unrealistic expectations of a partner's role in fulfilling all emotional needs.  
  • Examining these expectations helps to differentiate between healthy desires and unrealistic demands.  

  • "In what ways could you practice being vulnerable so that you can open yourself up to experiencing more joy in a relationship?"
  • Vulnerability is essential for intimacy, but it can be terrifying for someone with abandonment fears.  
  • This question encourages them to identify small, manageable steps towards vulnerability, fostering a sense of control and building trust in the process.

  • "How can you focus on developing more trust in a relationship?"
  • Fear of abandonment often stems from a lack of trust.  
  • This question prompts reflection on specific actions and behaviors that can build trust, both in themselves and in their partner.

  • "Are you pursuing partners who are emotionally unavailable?"
  • This is a common pattern for those with abandonment fears.
  • This question encourages self-awareness and helps to break the cycle of choosing partners who reinforce their fears.

These questions promote:

  • Self-awareness: They encourage introspection and help individuals understand the roots of their fears.
  • Behavioral change: They prompt the development of healthier relationship patterns.
  • Emotional regulation: They facilitate the ability to manage anxiety and fear in relationships.

Deuteronomy 31:6

6 “Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.”

From the lesson:  Unchained Disciples : Changing The Story You Tell Yourself

2 The Christian mindset

Some of the mindsets you should have as a Christian include:

  1. God Forgives You of Your Sins
  2. Your Value isn’t Dependent on Your Works
  3. God  Wants You to Succeed
  4. Nothing Will Stop Jesus from Loving You
  5. All of the above

5 All of the above

Romans 8:31-34

31What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who is against us? 32He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things? 33 Who will bring charges against God’s elect? God is the one who justifies; 34 who is the one who condemns? Christ Jesus is He who died, but rather, was raised, who is at the right hand of God, who also intercedes for us.

From the lesson:  Unchained Disciples : The Christian Mindset

3 Renewing Your Mind

What are some ways to renew your mind?

  1. Read scripture
  2. Thing about eternity
  3. Fasting
  4. Worship
  5. All of the above

5. All of the above

Colossians 3:2

2 Set your minds on the things that are above, not on the things that are on earth.

There is more to life than just here and now


Read Scripture:

  • The Bible is the Word of God, containing truth and guidance.
  • Reading it allows individuals to:
  • Replace worldly or negative thought patterns with God's perspectives.
  • Learn about God's character and promises.
  • Gain wisdom and understanding for daily living.
  • It provides a foundation of truth to combat false narratives.
  • As stated in Romans 12:2, the renewing of the mind allows one to "discern what is the will of God." The bible is a tool to learn that will.

Think about Eternity:

  • Reflecting on eternal realities helps to:
  • Shift focus away from temporary, earthly concerns.
  • Gain a broader perspective on life's purpose.
  • Prioritize spiritual values over material ones.
  • It helps to place current trials into a better context.

Fasting:

  • Fasting is a spiritual discipline that involves abstaining from food.
  • It can help to:
  • Focus on spiritual matters rather than physical desires.
  • Create space for prayer and reflection.
  • Demonstrate dependence on God.
  • It can be a way to show humility, and create a deeper connection to God.

Worship:

  • Worship involves expressing love and reverence to God.
  • It can help to:
  • Shift focus from self to God.
  • Cultivate a heart of gratitude and praise.
  • Experience God's presence.
  • Through singing, prayer, and other forms of worship, the mind can be directed towards holy things.

From the lesson: http://unchaineddisciples.blogspot.com/2021/01/the-christian-mindset.html

Coping strategies

Humor, physical recreation, denial and drinking alcohol are examples of ____

  1. Renewing your mind
  2. Coping strategies
  3. Emotional triggers
  4. Boundaries
  5. all of the above

2 Coping strategies

How People Cope With Stressful Situations

Coping strategies are the behaviors, thoughts, and emotions that you use to adjust to the changes in your life.  There are healthy and unhealthy coping strategies.  

Humor

  • Pointing out the amusing aspects of the problem at hand, or "positive reframing,"

Seeking support. 

  • Asking for help, or finding emotional support from family members or friends

Problem-solving. 

  • problem solving aims to locate the source of the problem and determine solutions.

Relaxation. 

  • Engaging in relaxing activities, or practicing calming techniques, can help to manage stress and improve overall coping.

Physical recreation. 

  • Regular exercise, such as running, or team sports, is a good way to handle the stress of given situation. This may involve yoga, meditating, progressive muscle relaxation, among other techniques of relaxation.

Adjusting expectations. 

  • Anticipating various outcomes to scenarios in life may assist in preparing for the stress associated with any given change or event.

Denial. 

  • Avoidance of the issue altogether may lead to denying that a problem even exists.
  • Denial is usually maintained by distractions, such as excessive alcohol consumption, overworking, or sleeping more than usual.

Self-blame. 

  • Internalizing the issue, and blaming oneself (beyond just taking responsibility for one's actions),
  • leads to low-self esteem and sometimes depression.

Venting. 

  • Venting is the outward expression of emotions, usually in the company of friends or family. In moderation it can be healthy; however, ruminating on the negative can lead to strained relationships over time.

From the lesson: http://unchaineddisciples.blogspot.com/2021/02/coping-mechanisms.html

5 Controlling Your Emotions

Which of these is not a good approach to managing your emotions?

  1. Identify the emotion/stronghold with a biblical label
  2. Identify Satan’s battle tactic
  3. Overeating
  4. Read scripture
  5. They are all great approaches to managing your emotions

3. Overeating

Practical Approach to Manage Emotions

Biblical Steps

Explanation

Example

1.) Specifically identify the emotion/stronghold with a biblical label

In order to let the Word speak to our weakness of fear, anxiety, bitterness, unforgiveness, drunkenness, fornication, etc., we need to confess it for what it truly is.

Anger

2.) Identify satan’s battle tactics

What does the enemy want you to believe about this stronghold? What false teaching is he encouraging you to believe about the gospel or character of God?

Satan wants me to believe I am owed the comfort and ease of permanently obedient children.

3.) New creation implications

What does your relationship with God through Christ mean for this stronghold? What is true about Christ and how does that impact heart change in this area?

In Christ, I have the ability to respond to the temptation to anger in a new way. (2 Cor. 5:17Romans 6:11) I can remember God is in control (Romans 8:28). Christ loved me when I was a sinner, and because of this amazing grace, I can choose to demonstrate mercy to my children. (Eph. 4:31-32)

4.) relevant Scripture

What truth does the Word have to offer regarding the identified stronghold?

Eph. 4:31-32James 4:1-7

5.) Pre-planned escape route.

When we are tempted to succumb to our strongholds, what truth about God’s character or our identity in Christ will be our battle cry to fight against it by grace?

My anger is not about what is being done to me–it's something coming out of me. I can chose to respond differently because Christ lives in me, and because God is faithful to provide a way to endure this present frustration. (1 Cor. 10:13)

From the lesson: https://unchaineddisciples.blogspot.com/2021/03/controlling-your-emotions.html

Emotional Triggers

You can be emotionally triggered when you feel:

  1. Rejected
  2. Abandoned
  3. Belittled
  4. Attacked
  5. All of the above

5 All of the above

Emotional trigger is when something Happens and you have an emotional response that is disproportionate to what is happening

  • You blow up at a small thing
  • You overreact
  • Overthink
  • Overstressed
  • Over obsess

It’s usually because whatever happened hit a deeper wound or a deeper insecurity.

  • We are reacting to the past.
  • Something inside of us is feeling deeply threatened.
  • This is why we have the big reaction.

From the lesson:

https://unchaineddisciples.blogspot.com/2021/03/emotional-triggers.html

7 Anxiety

Which of these is not a cause of anxiety?

  1. Wanting to be in control
  2. Fruits of the Spirit
  3. Fear
  4. People pleasing
  5. Traumatic past

2. Fruits of the Spirit

Isaiah 26:3-4

3 “The steadfast of mind You will keep in perfect peace,

Because he trusts in You.

4 “Trust in the LORD forever,

For in GOD the LORD, we have an everlasting Rock.

Peace is connected to trust

From the lesson: Unchained Disciples : Dealing With Anxiety - Part 3

8 Addictions

Which of these is not a cause of addictions?

  1. Anxiety
  2. Feelings of emptiness
  3. Shame
  4. Analyzing your thought pattern
  5. All are causes of addiction

4. Analyzing your thought pattern

Analyze Your Thought Pattern

A cure for addiction

Ask Yourself

  • Am I willing to let go of my self-centered ego centric point of view
  • Am I willing to stop blaming others and let go of resentment
  • Am I willing to let go of my old plan and adopt a new plan in my life
  • Am I willing to except that there are more powerful forces then I and that I cannot do this on my own
  • Is it becoming clear that my old pattern isn’t working
  • Is it clear that I need a new plan for fulfillment
  • Am I open to a different plan
  • Am I open to being guided
  • Do I need to apologize to someone?

From the lesson:  Unchained Disciples : Overcoming Addictions

9 Take Every Thought Captive

What are some practical techniques we discussed on how to “take your thoughts captive”?

  1. Think positive
  2. Practice of gratitude
  3. Filter what sources you allow to go into your mind (e.g. news, social media, …)
  4. Analyze your triggers
  5. All of the above

5. All of the above

Think Positive

Philippians 4:8

8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

Practice of Gratitude

UC Davis studies show that writing something that you’re grateful for every day he makes you feel better

Write down 2 or 3 things you are grateful for each day

Analyze the Trigger

What caused me to think this?

Ask yourself

  • What am I reacting to?
  • Do I feel Empty, depressed or anxious
  • Am I angry?

Self judgment can be a trigger

  • “That was stupid”
  • “I can’t believe I did that”

From the lesson:  Unchained Disciples : Take Every Thought Captive

10 Happiness and Peace

What are some things that take away your joy?

  1. Fear of man
  2. Devising Evil
  3. Comparison
  4. Sin
  5. All of the above

E. All of the above

Fear of Man

Galatians 1:10

10 For am I now seeking the favor of people, or of God? Or am I striving to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ.

The worst kind of bondage in the world is the bondage of being scared of what people think. You can’t do what God wants you to do because you’re worried about what people will say

You’re never going to get peace trying to appear perfect

Devising Evil

Proverbs 12:20

Deceit is in the heart of those who devise evil,

But counselors of peace have joy.

You will never have peace if you plan evil.

Comparison

Exodus 20:17

17 “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male slave, or his female slave, or his ox, or his donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”

Sin

Galatians 5:19-22

19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, and debauchery; 20 idolatry and sorcery; hatred, discord, jealousy, and rage; rivalries, divisions, factions, 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

Inheriting the Kingdom of God is obtaining the promise of righteousness, joy and peace

 You can’t have peace and joy if you

  • Haven’t forgiven other people
  • Covet what other people have
  • Having addiction
  • Are committing adultery
  • Are a witch
  • Are jealous

From the lesson:  Unchained Disciples : Finding Happiness and Peace

11 People Pleasing

A negative trait of people pleasers is that they do good things because they

  1. want to please God
  2. are kind
  3. want to look good to other people
  4. Want to do what the bible says
  5. All of the above

3. Because they want to look good to other people

People pleaser Motivations

  • Doing it to look good
  • Scared to say no
  • Fear of
  • Judgment
  • Rejection
  • Not being accepted
  • Missing out
  • Being told no
  • Conflict

From the lesson: Unchained Disciples : People Pleasing

12 Boundaries

Which one is an example of a good boundary

  1. Telling your neighbor, I won’t walk your dog unless you give me a week’s notice
  2. Telling your child their clothes are too promiscuous
  3. Reminding your friend that pride is a sin
  4. Telling your boyfriend you want him to start picking your son up from school
  5. All of the above

1 Telling your neighbor, I won’t walk your dog unless you give me a week’s notice

It’s not that the other things are wrong to do.  They just aren’t examples of setting boundaries.

Boundaries are about

  • The work/ownness falling on the person whose responsibility it is
  • Changes you will make in YOUR OWN behaviour
  • Taking ownership of you own
  • thoughts
  • feelings
  • bodies
  • decisions
  • Having the ability to say no
  • distinction between what you have authority over and what other people have authority over
  • Define access I allow someone to have in my life

From the lesson: Unchained Disciples : What Are Boundaries?

13 Self Care

What are some examples of self care

  1. Getting a massage
  2. Going to sleep on time
  3. Taking the medicine the doctor prescribed
  4. Not spending money on things you can’t afford (e.g vacation)
  5. All of the above

5. All of the above

Self care is about treating yourself as if you were someone you love.

All of those options are forms of self-care. Here's a breakdown of why each is beneficial:

  • Getting a massage:
  • This is a form of physical self-care. It helps reduce muscle tension, alleviate stress, and promote relaxation. It can also improve circulation and overall well-being.
  • Going to sleep on time:
  • This is crucial for both physical and mental health. Adequate sleep allows the body and mind to repair and rejuvenate. It improves cognitive function, mood, and energy levels.
  • Taking the medicine the doctor prescribed:
  • This is essential for maintaining physical health and addressing medical conditions. Neglecting prescribed medication can lead to serious health consequences. Therefore, adhering to medical advice is a fundamental aspect of self-care.
  • Not spending money on things you can’t afford (e.g., vacation):
  • This is a form of financial and emotional self-care. It reduces stress and anxiety associated with financial instability. Living within your means promotes a sense of security and peace of mind. While vacations are nice, they are not worth the stress that financial difficulty can create.

From the lesson: Unchained Disciples : Sabbath Rest

14 Sleep

Lack of sleep causes:

  1. Lose your inhibitions
  2. Weight gain
  3. Lower mental ability
  4. Higher rates of heart disease
  5. All of the above

5. All of the above

What happens if you don’t get enough sleep?

  1. Irritability
  2. Moodiness
  3. Lose your inhibitions
  4. Problems making decisions
  5. Problems retrieving information
  6. Problems processing information
  7. Overeating
  8. Weight gain
  9. Lower mental ability
  10. Higher rates of heart disease

If it continues for prolonged periods

  1. Apathy
  2. Slow to speech
  3. Impaired memory

From the lesson: Unchained Disciples : Why You Need to Sleep

15 Seven types of rest

Which of these was not a type of rest that we studied in our series?

  1. Creative rest
  2. Spiritual rest
  3. Sensory rest
  4. Mindset rest
  5. All of these were types of rest we studied

4. Mindset rest

The true definition of rest encompasses a recovery of everything in your body from everything that drains it

  • Physically well rested
  • Feeling mentally ready
  • Feeling emotionally fulfilled
  • Feeling creatively recharged
  • Free from stress and anxiety

The 7 Types of rest are:

  1. Physical
  2. Spiritual
  3. Mental
  4. Sensory
  5. Creative
  6. Emotional
  7. Social

The area that you were pouring out the most is the area you are most likely to have a deficiency

Sometimes when we are drained, it is not a matter of getting more sleep

  • It might be going to hang around people
  • It might be taking a walk by the ocean
  • It might be playing the radio
  • It might be turning off the radio

From the lesson: https://unchaineddisciples.blogspot.com/2021/12/7-types-of-rest.html

16 Spiritual Rest

When you have these signs which type of rest could you be lacking

  • No sense of purpose
  • No sense of belonging
  • No connection to God
  • doubt God’s plan
  • doubt God’s existence

Which one

  1. Sensory
  2. Creative
  3. Emotional
  4. Social
  5. None of the above

5. None of the above.   ..Spiritual Rest


From the lesson:  https://unchaineddisciples.blogspot.com/2022/01/spiritual-rest.html

17 Negative Self Talk

Your inner critic is often caused by you repeating the negative things that were said to you by your primary caregiver.  

Which of these is not a cause of a negative inner critic?


  1. Judgment
  2. Strongholds
  3. Shame
  4. Rejection or abuse
  5. All of the above

2. Strongholds


We defined a strong hold as a lie that you tell yourself in order to justify going against the commands of God

Judgment

You were judged harshly or frequently by parents or other family.   You could begin to feel wrong, bad, inadequate or worthless especially if this judgment was accompanied by anger yelling or abuse.

Shame

Being shamed or ridiculed by parents, family, teachers would cause an inner critic to come out to shame you.  Kids may repeat the scolding phrase to themselves on their own.

Punishment as Control

You Are Bad

Parents overreacted and punished the child for something they did and said they were bad.   This activates an inner critic part that undermines or guilt trips the child.

As adults we use the same harsh approach that was used on us.  

Rejection or Abuse

If your caretakers ended up rejecting or abusing you you felt that you didn’t have the right to exist.

Blame Yourself

This would create an inner critic part that blames you for the abuse to prevent you from fighting back and getting harmed even more or being abandoned entirely.   It blames you to give you the illusion of being able to control or prevent the situation.  It also prevents you from fighting back which would cause further abuse.  


From the lesson:

Unchained Disciples : Negative Self Talk

18 Positive Self Talk

Which of these is not a benefit of positive self-talk?

  1. Strong boundaries
  2. Improved cognitive performance
  3. More Confidence
  4. Less Anxiety
  5. All of the above are benefits of positive self talk


1.  Strong boundaries

Benefits of Self Talk

Studies have shown the following results from self talk…

Improves cognitive performance

  • Such as concentration and visual processing.

More Confidence

  • Those who engage in self-talk display more confidence

Less Anxiety

  • Those who engage in self-talk experience less anxiety

Psychological distance

  • Allows you to Make decisions more objectively while staying rooted in your true self

Emotional regulation

  • Widens your perspective and helps you see opportunities
  • Speaking of yourself in the third person can help you manage negative emotions by creating distance.

Increases your focus and motivation

  • It gives you your own coach

Positive worldview

  • Change the world from hostile to hospitable

From the lesson: Unchained Disciples : Positive Self Talk

19 Heart

When the Bible refers to “the heart” it is talking about:

  1. The mind
  2. Moral character
  3. Motives
  4. Knowledge
  5. All of the above


5. All of the above


Proverbs 23:7

For as he thinks within himself, so he is. He says to you, “Eat and drink!” But his heart is not with you.

Jewish Encyclopedia

As in the Bible (Gen. vi. 5, viii. 21), the seat of good and evil impulses alike is neither the body nor the soul, but rather the heart (not, of course, the physical organ, but the willing and thinking self).

The heart is the organ of conscience.

The heart is also the seat of feeling, of courage, of hatred, of pride, and of deceit.

The heart is most exposed to the ills of the flesh, and most sensitive to all changes of temperament, hatred and love, fear and vengeance

“The heart” in the Bible is used to talk about:

  • The mind
  • Knowledge
  • thinking, reflection
  • inclinations, resolutions
  • determinations of the will
  • conscience
  • moral character
    • “Good heart”
  • Intentions / motive
  • seat of the emotions and passions
  • the seat of the appetites (figuratively)
  • seat of courage
    • “Take heart”
  • seat of pride

It Stores

  1. Belief
  2. experiences
  3. Resolutions (decisions)
  4. Convictions
  5. Secret hopes
  6. Fears (deep fears)
  7. Residence of desires

From the lesson: Unchained Disciples : Your Beliefs Are Holding You Back

20 Anger

The verse that states “do not let the sun go down on your anger” is meant to tell us that

  1. Anger is a sin
  2. Couples should not go to sleep before reconciling
  3. There is a time limit when your anger becomes unforgiveness
  4. The devil is more powerful at night time
  5. All of the above

3.  There is a time limit when your anger becomes unforgiveness

Ephesians 4:25-27

25 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.

  • You can be angry
  • Don’t respond to your anger with sinful actions
  • Don’t stay angry too long

The context of this verse is about your neighbor not an intimate relationship

The devil gets a foothold if you don’t forgive

It’s okay to get angry, but not okay to stay angry